projectunbreakable:

The posters read:
“You’re pretty drunk, aren’t you?”
-Age 15: my rapist, after watching me fall while trying to walk away from him
“…”
-Age 19: I was sleeping when a ‘friend’ assaulted me
“I’m not going to fuck you tonight, because I don’t have a condom…and I’m HIV+. You’d probably be fine, though…”
-Age 20: While a ‘close friend’ assaulted me
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Photographed in College Park, MD on November 1st.
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I was browsing my facebook feed when I saw a picture of a friend (not the girl pictured above), holding a sign saying that she had been sexually assaulted.  That prompted me to look at the other messages that were on the Projectunbreakable tumblr.
It made me fucking sick.  We walk around thinking this kind of thing doesn’t happen, or that it doesn’t happen near us.  But it does happen, everywhere, all the time, and to people we know.  
What pisses me off the most is that for some reason society seems to think it’s up to the victim to stop the crime.  THAT’S DEAD WRONG.  We can’t participate in the behavior that promotes victim shaming, that tells victims they should stay silent, that says, “maybe he or she asked for it.”  
NO ONE ASKS FOR IT, that’s the definition of rape.
I don’t know exactly what I can do as an individual to stop rape from happening other than 1.) not doing it myself (obviously) or 2.) stopping it if I see it happen (I hope I have the courage/strength, and I believe that writing it down will prepare me to act should the situation arise).  I can say that a real man doesn’t use force, that no one ought to use force regardless of gender or orientation, and I don’t know if it will make people less likely to rape.  
But I can tell you one thing, I won’t be the person that hears about a sexual assault or rape and shrugs his shoulders, and wonders whether there was some ambiguous consent, or that maybe he or she really did want it and now they regret it.  That’s absolute bullshit.
If you have even the slightest shadow of a doubt that someone doesn’t fully consent to what you’re considering doing with/to them, or they’re unable to give consent; keep your sexual organs in your pants and just leave.  
One last thing.  To all the victims/survivors, don’t let them take your voice.  End the violence. 
P.S.  Here’s a list of elected officials, some of which you may have voted for, that voted against reauthorizing the violence against women act, make sure they pay the electoral consequence.

projectunbreakable:

The posters read:

“You’re pretty drunk, aren’t you?”

-Age 15: my rapist, after watching me fall while trying to walk away from him

“…”

-Age 19: I was sleeping when a ‘friend’ assaulted me

“I’m not going to fuck you tonightbecause I don’t have a condom…and I’m HIV+. You’d probably be fine, though…”

-Age 20: While a ‘close friend’ assaulted me

Photographed in College Park, MD on November 1st.

Click here to learn more about Project Unbreakable. (trigger warning)

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I was browsing my facebook feed when I saw a picture of a friend (not the girl pictured above), holding a sign saying that she had been sexually assaulted.  That prompted me to look at the other messages that were on the Projectunbreakable tumblr.

It made me fucking sick.  We walk around thinking this kind of thing doesn’t happen, or that it doesn’t happen near us.  But it does happen, everywhere, all the time, and to people we know.  

What pisses me off the most is that for some reason society seems to think it’s up to the victim to stop the crime.  THAT’S DEAD WRONG.  We can’t participate in the behavior that promotes victim shaming, that tells victims they should stay silent, that says, “maybe he or she asked for it.”  

NO ONE ASKS FOR IT, that’s the definition of rape.

I don’t know exactly what I can do as an individual to stop rape from happening other than 1.) not doing it myself (obviously) or 2.) stopping it if I see it happen (I hope I have the courage/strength, and I believe that writing it down will prepare me to act should the situation arise).  I can say that a real man doesn’t use force, that no one ought to use force regardless of gender or orientation, and I don’t know if it will make people less likely to rape.  

But I can tell you one thing, I won’t be the person that hears about a sexual assault or rape and shrugs his shoulders, and wonders whether there was some ambiguous consent, or that maybe he or she really did want it and now they regret it.  That’s absolute bullshit.

If you have even the slightest shadow of a doubt that someone doesn’t fully consent to what you’re considering doing with/to them, or they’re unable to give consent; keep your sexual organs in your pants and just leave.  

One last thing.  To all the victims/survivors, don’t let them take your voice.  End the violence. 

P.S.  Here’s a list of elected officials, some of which you may have voted for, that voted against reauthorizing the violence against women act, make sure they pay the electoral consequence.

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